pretty sure my gender is just power bottom

you really lose someone thinking you had more time than you actually did.

my grandma passed away yesterday and, exactly 6 months from the last time we were able to talk on the phone since she lived in viet nam and was a nun and traveled all the time doing things with her temple. on the phone I told her in 3 years I would be able to go home to see her and she told me she didn’t know if she had that long. I asked her to try and she said she would, try to wait for me.

so yeah, I had hope for more time and now I’m mourning her and my hope for more time.

I am sad and angry and frustrated and feeling fucked over by borders and class and migration and distance.

I don’t know when my mom will be able to go home, she still hasn’t been able to visit her dad’s grave since his death.

right now I don’t feel the magic or hopefulness of being an immigrant trying to bend distance or stretch time to juggle this place and that place.

they had my grandma’s service at the temple this morning. my cousin shared a photo of her alter on Facebook. she looks exactly like I remember. and if anything, we’ll have a recording of her service like we did of our grandpa’s in a month’s time

dendriforming:

"Is being alive really in the best interests of people with profound disabilities?"

Well, yes, actually.

[image description: a black cat squished into a tight space between two walls. it is looking at the viewer with a slice of ham on its body.]
thecatsmustbecrazy:

ham

you stare into the abyss and the abyss stares back to ask why you’re staring so hard at its ham

[image description: a black cat squished into a tight space between two walls. it is looking at the viewer with a slice of ham on its body.]

thecatsmustbecrazy:

ham

you stare into the abyss and the abyss stares back to ask why you’re staring so hard at its ham

we love each other

we love each other

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catiebat:

digitaldressformreborn:

insertfandomreference:

wow what the actual fuck neopets

Still funny

i logged back into my neopets account recently & felt so guilty.

uhhhhh

i form attachment to mobility devices really quickly. when i first got my cane, even on days when i felt like i wouldn’t need it, i would use it anyways because it comforted me in believing that i could have more mobility freedom than when i didn’t - and for the most part, that was true for every day that i used it. 

i just got a bike like 2 seconds ago but i am already feeling attached to it and really happy i did this for myself. i am thinking about the freedom that comes with believing that i can do whatever i want, get to whereever i need to get even if sometimes i can’t. being able to bike across campus or even just down the street is much less intimidating than walking there. i am grateful for all of the things my body is and is not capable of doing. 

i want all of us to have the kind of mobility freedom that we seek. i want all of us to be able to feel like superheroes with our canes and wheelchairs and walkers and bikes and cars. i want us to be able to get where we need to get even if we couldn’t get inside (for now). i want the things that help our body move be as legitimate as our body, be considered as a part of our body, be as valued as a part of our bodies. 

i want it all

cunthulhu:

tranqualizer:

i finally have a bike! just have to get new inner tube and a chain and it’ll be good to go. i’ll be able to do it tomorrow :) 

i cannot WAIT to go on cute bike rides together with youuuu ^___^

it’s going to be soooo cuteeeeeeee

i just want to make the observation that white masculine lesbians use the military as a way to feel even more grounded in their shitty, egotistical masculinity

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kimikokat:

Steal their look: puppies

Chicken($5.99)

i finally have a bike! just have to get new inner tube and a chain and it’ll be good to go. i’ll be able to do it tomorrow :) 

tranqualizer:

i have lots of compassion for people of color who come from really white communities and didn’t come up with lots of people of color. 

i have lots of compassion when they say sympathizing shit about white people’s racist, tokenizing, minimizing, etc behavior. 

because most of the time, yeah, if you’re the only person of color in your white neighborhood you aren’t threatening to white people and they have no reason to act aggressively towards you 

taking the compassion to support the transition of people of color who have their hearts broken when they start to realize they are actually a part of a threat to whiteness; that they have been groomed by white supremacy to make communities of color seem like the “bad guys”

it was thirst at first sight

and people on tinder are like no hookups!!!! which is fine but can i get at least one person who’s like oh you and your boo are cute let’s make out